Apologies

Apologies should be brief, on topic, and sincere.

There are a lot of apologies that are not apologies at all.  Here is a brief but concise list of the things that don't qualify as apologies.  If you recognize anyone, please direct them to this posting.  If you have been pointed to this posting, I sincerely hope you can recognize yourself and stop being such a dick.

If you say you are sorry for (fill in the blank) and in the same breath attempt to explain anything connected with your apology - It is not an apology, you are not sorry at all - you are still stating your case.

If it is not an apology for 100% of the incident or circumstance - It is not an apology  - it is incredibly weak excuse.

If you say that something good came out of (fill in the blank) - It is not an apology, is a half assed explanation.

You need to clearly understand the difference between an apology and an excuse.  If you apologize and then try to make an excuse for yourself - It is not an apology.

If you are not sorry, don't apologize.

If you apologize to placate anyone, you are not doing anything right for that person or yourself.

If you apologize and keep doing the same thing over and over again - It is not an apology, it is a self centered crappy explanation for being an asshole.

You cannot (and should not) apologize for anyone but yourself.

If you are going to apologize:

• Don't apologize until you have a full understand of what and why you are apologizing
• Apologize for what you have done and keep it to that.
• When you apologize - make sure you mean it.

If someone has apologized to you on a repeated basis please forward link to blog to them or cut and paste this posting to them. 

As a public service please remind these guys they are self centered dicks because of those self serving half assed apologies.  Those kind of apologies are way worst than saying nothing at all.

Love Dad