Relax

Learning to relax is not easy at all. 

There are a lot of things that pass for relaxing that are not relaxing at all.  They let you escape, postpone, and forget.  It is not hard to get into trouble trying to find that those things that will help you escape, postpone, or forget the burdens you carry.  We all carry our burdens.  Important to remember they are burdens to carry, not crosses to bear.

Burdens are not things that are thrust on you by chance or circumstance.  Burdens are the things that we choose to carry.   Everyone carries burdens, I certainly do.  They are my burdens, unique to me.  That is why no one can assume them, carry them, or make them go away for me.   That is something that I have to do.  Your burdens work the same way, they are unique to you.  No one can carry them for you or make them go away.   They are the things we have chosen to carry.

So you need to learn to put your burdens down to relax.  It is so simple it is hard.  You gather them up and put them on a shelf for an hour or two while you read a book, watch a movie, take a hike, work out etc.  You mind needs to take a break just like your body needs to sleep.  Those burdens don't get bigger, or grow legs while you are away for a short time.  They remain remarkably the same.

You should also reserve the right to take that time for just you if that is what is needed.  In other words, feel free to send people away so you can get that needed break.

A half assed break to relax is like getting a full night of really crappy sleep.

And please don't tell me you are too busy to take care of yourself.  No one is that busy...don't confuse being disorganized to being busy.

Love Dad.