Doors

There are doors that you close tight, doors that you leave ajar, and doors that you leave wide open. 

Easy stuff first.  I have an amazing circle of family and friends in my life.  For me, these people are the definitive measure of my success.  These are the doors that are wide open, they are never closed.  I expect and want these people to walk through my door any time of the day or night.   I walk through their doors on a frequent basis. Open doors

Similarly there are people who have been a part of my life that are not in my life today for really good reasons.  Everyone makes the same mistake when it comes to these people.  We believe that these people define who we are and the longer they were in our lives the more we get convinced of this.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  These are the kind of people that help you reconcile who you are. And for that you can (and should) appreciate them  - behind a door that is firmly and forever closed.

The crappiest people who have ever crossed my path helped me reconcile who I am.  I hope you never think you have to make an apology for seeing something in someone that in the end just was not there.  I hope you when you realize that is is not there, you can shut the door and move on without thinking you need to defend the time you spent with them.  It is just as important for them to move on and close the door also.  Closed doors

The doors that are ajar, well those are the people that you think are going to end up in that close circle of dear friends.  Those kind of friends show up when you least expect them.  If you have to sort through a whole bucket of assholes to find one of those dear friends it is worth it.  Just remember, don't spend a lot of time sorting assholes, it delays finding that friend you are looking for.

Looking forward to having you guys home for Thanksgiving...

Love Dad.
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